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The Friendship Audit

One of the places where we should feel the safest to be our truest selves is among our inner circle! If you still have to put on a fictional character in their presence, then you need to reshuffle your circle very quickly.

Olubunmi

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The Friendship Audit
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๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐จ ๐š ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐š๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐Ÿ‘‡

According to Jim Rohn, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Each time I read this quote, I find it really instructive because it highlights our inner circle's profound impact on our lives.

The people we surround ourselves with shape our thoughts, behaviours, and ultimately, our destiny.

This is why it's so critical to audit our friendships. I know the word "friendship" is used very loosely, but I hope that we know who our true friends are and why they are important to us.

๐๐ฒ ๐š๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ž ๐ฎ๐ฌ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฆ๐š๐ฒ ๐›๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค. ๐“๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ.

๐Ÿ’ก
One of the places where we should feel the safest to be our truest selves is among our inner circle! If you still have to put on a fictional character in their presence, then you need to reshuffle your circle very quickly. - Olubunmi Nmerenu

Authenticity is the foundation of genuine friendships; anything outside that is a facade.

Conducting a friends audit allows you to assess whether your relationships are rooted in authenticity.

๐€๐ฌ๐ค ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ:

๐Ÿ“ Do my friends accept and appreciate me for who I am?

๐Ÿ“Can I be vulnerable and share my true thoughts and feelings with them?

๐Ÿ“Do they challenge me to grow and become a better version of myself?

Can I also quickly mention that ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ช๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ช๐ฎ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.

It's not about having a massive network, but rather about nurturing meaningful connections with those who stand by us through thick and thin.

๐Œ๐ฒ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ๐๐š๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ: ๐€๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ง ๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐›๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ?

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