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Approval Addiction

๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ˆ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐†๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐ž. ๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ญ๐ซ๐š!

Olubunmi

• 2 min read
Approval Addiction
Timi Dakolo

๐€๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐๐๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.

This โ€˜tweetโ€™ by Timi resonated so deeply with me that it got me emotional because it brought back memories, some very recent.

Sometimes itโ€™s not just โ€œI am proud of youโ€ some people are waiting to hear, they want to hear โ€œWell doneโ€, โ€œYouโ€™re doing greatโ€, โ€œI know youโ€™re trying your bestโ€โ€ฆ.

Just that acknowledgement makes them feel seen!

Thereโ€™s nothing as painful as being overlooked, disregarded or made to feel insignificant.

I am learning to detox myself from peopleโ€™s approval or validation. Itโ€™s a nice to have, but not a must-have.

๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ˆ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐†๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐ž. ๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ญ๐ซ๐š!

Timiโ€™s advice is so spot on! Itโ€™s time to move on. Break free! You deserve better.

I know itโ€™s painful to work so hard to impress someone who canโ€™t be bothered to acknowledge the effort. But you need to start doing things for you.

๐–๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ , ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐ข๐ซ๐ซ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ฆ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ! ๐’๐š๐ฒ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฐ๐ž๐ž๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ฌ๐š๐ข๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ!

Also, if someone hasnโ€™t told you this today, let me be the first to tell you: I am so proud of you! You are amazing! You are beautiful!

Well done for showing up and not giving up on yourself! Your dreams are valid! You deserve the best things in life, and they are coming your way!

Youโ€™re loved and cherished โค๏ธ

Xoxo

Olubunmi

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